In re Mary Nthenya (Deceased) (Civil Suit E206 of 2023) [2023] KEMC 256 (KLR)
The bottom line
#A Machakos court ruled that an incomplete Kamba customary marriage ceremony does not make you a spouse, so the widower could not claim the right to bury his late partner.
What this practically means
#Executive summary
#Questions the Court framed
#The issues the Court set itself to decide, in its own words.
- 1.Whether the Plaintiff has established – on a preponderance of probabilities – that there was a Kamba customary marriage between him and the deceased
- 2.If the foregoing is answered in the negative, whether a marriage by presumption can be inferred in the special circumstances of this case
- 3.Whether a burial wish has been established
- 4.The party entitled to inter the remains of the deceased and the place of interment
- 5.Who should shoulder the costs of this suit
Key legal issues
#Whether a valid Kamba customary marriage was established
No. The ntheo ceremony of 22nd January 2022 was incomplete by the consent of both families, who deferred its completion to later dates that never materialised; there was no consensus ad idem or final consent of the bride's parents, so no Kamba customary marriage existed
The court examined the elders' resolutions (Plaintiff's Exhibit 1) and found both families agreed the ntheo was incomplete, deferring completion to 5th March and September 2022. Since ntheo is consensual and the most essential ceremony, incompleteness defeats the marriage. The court applied Cotran's essentials of Kamba marriage and the proof principles in Yawe and Kimani v. Gikanga, concluding the Plaintiff failed on a preponderance of probabilities.
Whether a marriage by presumption could be inferred
No. The parameters in MNK v. POM were not met: long cohabitation was doubtful, there was no evidence the parties held themselves out as married, and they had no child together
The court applied the Supreme Court's eight parameters for presumption of marriage. DW3's evidence that the Plaintiff was an occasional visitor rather than cohabiting undermined long cohabitation; there was no evidence of general repute as husband and wife, worsened by the absence of children. Presumption of marriage is a default fall-back, not the rule, so the claim failed on this alternative footing too.
Whether a burial wish of the deceased was established
It was unnecessary to determine this question, but on the merits it would have been answered in the negative
Because the first two questions were answered in favour of the Defendant, the court held it otiose to decide the burial wish question; it nonetheless indicated that had it been determined on merit, it would have failed, though no reasons for that conclusion are elaborated in the judgment.
Who is entitled to bury the deceased and where
The Plaintiff is not entitled to inter the remains; and since there was no counter-claim, the court could not issue any order in favour of the Defendant on burial
The right to bury was contingent on proof of marriage, which failed. However, because the Defendant filed no counter-claim seeking burial rights, the court declined to make any positive order in the Defendant's favour on burial, only issuing directions on attendance of the burial and referral of the gift-return question to elders.
Legal principles established
#- In a Kamba customary marriage, the ntheo ceremony is indispensable and must be completed with consensus ad idem between the two families; a purported ntheo left incomplete by consent of the families does not conclude a marriage
- A presumption of marriage is the exception rather than the rule, and the strict parameters set out by the Supreme Court in MNK v. POM must be met
- The onus of proving a customary law marriage lies on the party who claims it, on a balance of probabilities
Court orders
#- 1.The Plaintiff's suit is dismissed with costs to the Defendant
- 2.The question whether the gifts presented to the bride's family on 22nd January 2022 are returnable is to be resolved by elders in accordance with the customs of the Akamba
- 3.The Plaintiff, his family members and friends are at liberty to attend both the burial arrangements and the burial of the deceased
The bench
#One judgment of the whole court — no separate or dissenting opinions.
Wrote the judgment
- Jurisdiction invoked
- Original civil jurisdiction of the subordinate court; applicable law under section 3(2) of the Judicature Act and section 43(1) of the Marriage Act, 2014 (customary marriage)
Relief refused
#Declaration that the Plaintiff is entitled to bury the remains of the deceased
No valid Kamba customary marriage was proved and no presumption of marriage arose; consequently the Plaintiff is not entitled to inter the remains, and no order could issue in favour of the Defendant absent a counter-claim
Costs of the suit
Costs were awarded to the Defendant, not the Plaintiff, since the suit failed
Costs
The suit was dismissed with costs to the Defendant.
Quotable passages
#Verbatim from the judgment, each located to the page it appears on in the official PDF — so these can be cited and checked directly.
Wherefore this Court finds this suit without merit and accordingly dismisses it with costs to the Defendant.
As to whether the gifts which were presented to the bride's family on 22nd January 2022 are returnable, this Court directs the question be resolved by elders in accordance with the customs of the Akamba, in that regard.
The Plaintifi, his family members and friends are at liberty to attend both the burial arrangements and the burial of the deceased.
it will be impermissible for the groom to claim acceptance of the ofier, if the ceremony remained incomplete -for whatever reasons- since consensus ad idem cannot be said to have been reached if the purported ntheo ceremony was incomplete as was the case herein.
A marriage by presumption or cohabitation is thus a default fall-back and taking this road cannot be the rule, but rather the exception.
Issues in the judgment
#The case number of the suit is not stated anywhere in the judgment
Discrepancy in the number of goats presented at the ceremony: the Plaintiff's evidence varied between 7 and 11 goats, while the Defendant stated 9
Defendant's exhibit of the deceased's burial wishes is inconsistently labelled in the judgment as 'the Plaintifi's exhibit 2'
Key timeline
#Practical implications
#Frequently asked questions
#Cite this brief
#Cite this brief
Caselaw, "In re Mary Nthenya (Deceased) (Civil Suit E206 of 2023) [2023] KEMC 256 (KLR)", Case Analysis (2023). Not stated in the judgment. Source: https://new.kenyalaw.org/akn/ke/judgment/kemc/2023/256/eng@2023-07-12
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